Ever met a guy that was perfect for you?
On paper that is.
In theory, he could easily be the man of your dreams.
But not in reality.
In reality, you find that there is something missing.
You can't put your finger on it,
but you know 'it' is missing.

Do you know what I mean?
For example, imagine being insanely attracted to someone.
Emotionally, you are in sync.
But thats not all, on top of the physical attraction,
your minds connect....intellectually.

Now imagine what it would be like to be intimately connected to someone like that?
Do you now see what I mean?

Im not talking about the innocence of first love here.
Im talking about the kind where two people
that have matured with experience (not age
are meeting on the same level where they can be bound together.
(yes, bound because it is that deep)

I mean wouldn't you want to give yourself to that person?
Wholly and completely?

Yea, thats the kind of love I'm talking about.

Its goes beyond just being physically attracted to someone.
Its beyond just knowing that that girl, will make a good wife.
Its beyond whether or not I have child bearing hips.

Its much more than that.
Waaay more than that.

I've been trying to explain this to someone,
but its like .... pulling teeth.
How do yo begin to quantify this in ONE word?
Is there even a word for it?

Do you feel me?
Or am I lost in my bubble needing to be rescued?


Comments (29)

On June 10, 2010 at 11:38 PM , Rene said...

i can also think of a world for it buh i get u

On June 11, 2010 at 12:13 AM , TayneMent said...

Yeah I get it. As an older person told me this "it" that your generation can't even define is what puts you in trouble lol

On June 11, 2010 at 12:15 AM , Mwajim Al said...

isn't that what the 'soulmate' word refers too? Or is it just too cliche? I get u tho.... huuummmm! deep.

On June 11, 2010 at 12:33 AM , neefemi said...

I'm getting you and most people think that you should easily dismiss that and look at the fact that the other things are perfect...i wish they would understand that "it" is the thing that draws you to someone, even when everything else isn't right ...

On June 11, 2010 at 2:55 AM , Tatababe said...

I get it but I don't know that there's a word for...I absolutely get it though :)

On June 11, 2010 at 3:17 AM , BBB said...

used to think i knew what "it" was
but i guess i was wrong
but it exist
and amma find it

On June 11, 2010 at 3:28 AM , Nutty J. said...

Do you know what that would mean?

Connecting at that level is something everyone prays for, that feeling were you know...you just know that you both love each other beyond your hearts but down to your souls...and you know that s/he hasnt come to take, s/he has come to restore. And the experiences of the past makes both of you...just right for each other. Not perfect...but just right.

There must be a reason why this eludes even the best of us.

On June 11, 2010 at 3:29 AM , Audeo said...
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On June 11, 2010 at 3:37 AM , Audeo said...

oooo chile! i do know what you are talking about. 'Superman' and I were talking about the same thing yesterday. Especially the part about "the kind where two people that have matured with experience are meeting on the same level where they can be bound together".

He had said that he wishes we met a long time ago. and my reply was that this timing is perfect. I have matured with experience and so has he (yada yada yada)

'It' is real and it exists.

On June 11, 2010 at 4:14 AM , 羅文浩 said...

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On June 11, 2010 at 6:40 AM , SHE said...

You are tryng to say that all the connections exist , yet "it" is still missing?

Or that "it" is about all these connections?

Am i confused?

On June 11, 2010 at 7:12 AM , Issey, Uche said...

same mind status as SHE...

is IT still missing?

Is IT about all these connections.
I sha know when You can't put a finger to what You love about someone then that LOVE is deeper than the physical and words are not enough...just hope IT is reciprocal and You are not dreaming.lol

On June 11, 2010 at 7:51 AM , 24yearOldTeEnAgeR said...

I get exactly what you're saying. Like, you have no idea.
I personally think the word is nameless.
Love the template.

On June 11, 2010 at 10:04 AM , BSNC said...

I think i feel you, i kind of get what you are saying. like 82.5% of what you mean.

On June 11, 2010 at 10:33 AM , Daylight said...

What is 'it?'

On June 11, 2010 at 12:32 PM , 2cute4u said...

Okay, I'm regretting reading this today..
Its ongoing in my life and I've been avoiding it cause, I just didn't want to wake up from my slumber..

On June 11, 2010 at 1:06 PM , Tisha said...

you are on a whole new level
The 'it' is the only thing that can tempt me to even walk down the aisle
but its scary and exciting at the same time
I don't know if you understand me...

This post is cool!

On June 11, 2010 at 2:03 PM , Myne Whitman said...

This is a deep one, very meaningful. Truth is, "IT" is one of those things...you can only know it when you see or feel it.

On June 11, 2010 at 8:25 PM , NakedSha said...

and it's most intriguing because it isn't one thing and it could differ from person to person.

But, only the gut can find it! Only the gut...

On June 12, 2010 at 6:51 PM , Jaycee said...

I feel you, lol. It's one of those things that can't be easily explained. But I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. Lol.

On June 12, 2010 at 10:32 PM , leggy said...

niceeeeeeeee...read this when you wrote it..thought i commented.

On June 15, 2010 at 3:00 AM , T.Notes said...

That's a bit of a teeth cracker???That after all that seemingly beyond surface connection...n i think i fully know that sort of connection...yet that one "it" remains elusive.
Dunno,guess you do the best to define the "it" and determine if its possibly worth letting go of for the sake of the more perfect ties...dunno. I might be starting to rant.

And as as per the more recent post,girl what's up???

On June 15, 2010 at 2:03 PM , Tisha said...

chill out

its ok to get mad, sometimes i swear in my head but i know things are working together for good

so chill out

On June 15, 2010 at 3:16 PM , Femme Lounge said...

well i think its important to be able to feel the man on all levels, and if it feels like there is still something missing, you should step back and find out what it is.

On June 16, 2010 at 9:31 PM , Berean Girl said...

There's a soul connection... You haven't lost your meaning at all. I think we're all in search of that in a way. Nice blog. First time here.

On June 18, 2010 at 8:13 AM , 志維 said...

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On June 18, 2010 at 6:16 PM , KabiOsi Edumare said...

U have to wear dis shoes to feel it....which have been there....
Nice post!!!

On June 25, 2010 at 5:34 PM , Miss Natural said...

I dont know, i can imagine the scenario, connecting with someone on every plane possible and yet there being something wrong...in my case lol its he's already attached darn. That 'something being wrong in my case' almost makes me feel like although i've grasped some of what you mean I havent grasped the full thing. your something wrong seems like something much deeper than 'unavailable'.

On October 13, 2010 at 10:26 PM , Marian said...

Your words resonate so much for me you will never know. First time on your blog. Love it so far.